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Identifying Self-Inflicted Pain
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"I was complaining about not having a new pair of shoes
until one day I met a man with no feet."
Certain types of emotional pain are self-inflicted. By practising self-observation
to recognise involuntary "awful-isation", you could get yourself out
of a sticky situation. Life is just too short to wallow in unnecessary sufferings.
The best thing to do is to step back and be your own critic. Once you've identified
what the problem is, be your own adviser. What advice would you give to anyone
if given the same circumstances? Is there really a problem? If there is, what
is it? Whose problem is it anyway?
Here are a few real life stories to learn from ...
- A friend complains,
"My best mate's girlfriend is such a .... Ok I might not really know her
but she's no good to him, that's for sure. She's so possessive and controlling.
For a long time, I've been constantly giving
him the best possible advice and the silly
fool just keeps going back to her every time. He really doesn't know what's good for him.
Why can't he just follow my advice?"
- A mother says,
"Oh I really do have a problem. my son is so untidy. I have to follow him around
everyday tidying up after him. Nothing I can do seems to be able to change him." When asked how
old he is, she replies, "25".
- A woman is chronically depressed
as the amount of her debts has accumulated to an astronomical figure. Instead
of facing the problem, she continues to spend on items she doesn't really
need. The worse the situation gets, the more she needs her retail therapy
sessions. Now she doesn't even know how much she owes.
- A man really hates his job because
he has to work like a slave over twelve hours
each day. He has no time for personal chores. By the time he gets
home everyday, he's absolutely exhausted. He can't sleep at night so spends
the rest of his precious hours watching nothing on television. The
lack of sleep turns him into an angry and miserable person. He's so irritable
that it is almost impossible for him to form a meaningful relationship with
his partner.
- A woman
complains that her long-term abusive husband has been unloving towards her.
When asked why she doesn't get a divorce, she replies, "Deep down he's
a very kind man."
- An over-eating
person with an unhealthy lifestyle complains about weight gain.
- A heavy
smoker complains about the dreadful coughs.
There are many more similar stories to tell. You get
the general picture anyway. These cases are not unusual. People hear, so they often
say, "Life is short", but they carry on living their lives in a blur
anyhow. If you are determined enough, you can wake up now and consciously live
your life to the full. It's never too late to start.
It's essential to get a balance of the following most important aspects in life:
- State of Health
- Quality of Marital/Sexual Relationship
- Career
- Family Life
- Social Life
People are unable to live a happy life if they don't get their priorities right. Remember, Heaven is under our feet as well as over our head.
Would you like to read a lovely story
called That Goat ?
Wizdom 23 October, 2000
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