THE RELATIONSHIP
A good relationship can give you great happiness, a special wonderful feeling unlike anything else. The most important thing is to make sure you're with the right person. He should be someone who loves you, respects you and accepts you as you are. This may well be the man with whom you spend the rest of your life. Choose carefully.
When two people become sexually intimate, they usually make some assumptions about what this means to their relationship. Most couples don't discuss this so they can get into arguments when they discover that their assumptions are different. It's necessary to communicate and reach an agreement.
Does having sex mean you're going to get married? Does it mean that you don't date (or have sex with) others? Are you going to try to get pregnant? This type of communication may not be easy, but it's something that's very valuable. The best relationships are those with the best communication.
Is this love or lust? Men sometimes offer love in hopes of getting sex. Women often give sex in hopes of getting love. For men, sex is more physical than emotional. For women, it's the opposite. It's O.K. if having sex means different things to you and your boyfriend. The important thing is that you're both open and honest about where you are and what you want.